No matter what I do, it feels like I can never meet anyone. The most interaction I have with a male is maybe a text from an old friend a couple times a week. How/where can I meet someone who's worth it? — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. One of the best ways to meet people and start a relationship is to be yourself and do things you love. The more you discover who you are and what your interests are the more likely you’ll be to meet people who appreciate the same things.

The key is to take some time to think about what you really love in life and then do it. As you follow your dreams you’ll meet people who appreciate who you are and want to spend time with someone like you. An additional benefit is that you get to be yourself and attract people who like the real you. You don’t have to act a certain way, just be friendly and talk to people and build friendships that can lead to romance in the future.

Remember that you deserve to do things you love and meet people who appreciate the wonderful person you are. Take care.

So me and my boyfriend of 6 months just broke up and of course I'm hurting real bad. We're both college freshman from the same state, different town. He was such a nice caring guy in the beginning of our relationship and turned into a complete jerk. We fought constantly and i find it hard to play it off when he's all over social networks saying how much of a good time he's having, I can't bring myself to be like that. Is he even hurting? He said he wanted to work things out but not right now. — srp11

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s hard to go through a break up in a relationship. One beneficial thing you can do is make sure that you treat yourself well and help yourself heal. Perhaps you might take some time to think about what you love doing in life and what you can do to build yourself up without a significant other. Think about what worked and what didn’t in your relationship as well as what you might do differently in the future.

You can’t do anything about what he’s thinking and feeling but you can make sure that you celebrate how great you are and keep moving your life in a positive direction. Consider talking and hanging out with trusted people and meeting new and interesting individuals. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who appreciates how great you are, treats you well and wants to spend time with you. You’re that important. Take care.

I've been with my boyfriend for two years. I love him & we're the best together. I recently met a guy who's very handsome, cute & charming. He has a girlfriend of four years. We've been flirting a lot via text & we see each other once a week in our 3 hr lecture & a few times outside of class. I can tell that he's into me, I'm into him, and there is a noticeable amount of sexual tension between us. I want to hook up with him, but I'm not willing to let go of my boyfriend for just that. Advice? — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s always a good idea to try to date people who are fully available and able to commit to you. It’s also beneficial to pay attention to how people behave right now because that’s likely how they will act in the future.

You get to choose what kind of relationship you want and how you behave. Perhaps you might consider that positives and negatives of anything you might want to do and how it might affect you and the people around you. The key in life is to behave in ways that help you move your life in a positive direction and treat yourself and others well. Remember that you deserve to be in a relationship where both people are completely honest and there for each other. Take care.

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I've been with my boyfriend for over 5 years and since we're entering our mid twenties now he wants to propose. But it's becoming clearer as we grow that our goals in life are very different and we have almost nothing in common anymore besides our feelings for each other. So I'm doubting our ability to have a symbiotic relationship where we can actually work as a team since we basically run separate lives. He thinks love is enough, but I'm wondering if that's just naivety. What do you think? — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. Love is part of healthy relationship but there are other vital elements such as communication, common goals, mutual support, shared interests, compatible values and positive behaviors.

You might consider having a series of calm and kind conversations about these type of things. Take some time to decide what’s important to you and what you need in a relationship and then start talking about it with him. Listen to each other and learn about one another.

Remember that you both deserve to be with someone who loves you and is also willing to do the hard work necessary to build a great relationship. Take care.

Hi, I love my boyfriend. We have been together for 9 months. but i want a serious relationship but he wants to "just date". Is there any way we could work things out? — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s important to realize that you can’t change what someone thinks in a relationship, only they can do that. That means that you get to decide what you do next based on what he’s doing right now.

You might want to think about what you want in a relationship and how you want to be treated. Once you know what’s important to you, you can talk with him calmly and kindly. Keep it brief and make sure to listen to what he says. The idea is to let him know what you need and learn about him. Once you have a few conversations, you’ll have a better idea of what’s best for you.

Remember that you deserve to be with someone who shares your goals and wants to be with you exclusively. You’re worth it. Take care.

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Hey, met this guy through facebook. And, I live in the middle east and he lives in London. Ive mentioned that im going there to do my masters.And told him not to give up on me, just yet, i hve a yr and a half left. Before this even happend we’ve on the phone like once and twice, 2 yrs ago. And we’ve come again this valentines day and we’re talking only this time we’re getting to know each other. Can you guide me of questions to ask him? So, i get bored easily and et to know him more. Cos’ i wnt this to work. thank you!

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Thank you for sharing your situation. One positive way to help a relationship grow is to communicate by asking open-ended questions. These are questions that encourage the other person to answer with something other than a yes or no. You might try some questions such as:

  • What are you thinking about our relationship?
  • What do you love doing?
  • What’s your passion in life?
  • What are your career plans?
  • What hobbies do you enjoy?

The idea is to ask him any question that you have a curiosity about and then listen to him without interrupting or directing the conversation, just listen. The more you listen to him the more you’ll learn about him. It will also help you build a relationship because you’ll get to know each other better. It’s also OK to share your thoughts and feelings with him.

In a healthy relationship, the people involved talk openly about things and enjoy learning about each other. Remember that you deserve a relationship with someone who wants to be with you and share his life with you. Take care.

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A few years ago the love of my life ended up with another woman because of an age gap, I felt I was too young and needed something way less serious and he was at the point where he was ready to settle down. Recently I started talking to him again and I'm falling in love with him all over. The problem is that he's married but I have every reason to believe he feels the same. Do I continue talking to him and potentially end an unhappy marriage or stop and move on? — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s important to be with someone who is completely available and who can devote all his energy and attention to you. You get to decide what you do in any relationship and you might find it helpful to ask yourself a couple of questions to clarify what you want to do, such as:

  • What kind of relationship do I want?
  • What have I done in the past that’s worked, what hasn’t and what would I do differently in the future?
  • What do I know about my history with this person and their past behavior?
  • What is the likely future effect of any behavior I choose today?
  • What can I do to make sure I’m behaving in the most positive way possible?

Take some time to think carefully about questions like these. The idea is to behave in ways that help you live a positive life rather than finding yourself in a situation that may cause you grief.

Remember that you deserve to be in a relationship with someone who is able to commit to you and doesn’t come with extra baggage. Take care.

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