hey, ive recently broke up with my ex- bf. And its been 2 days now. That we broke up, what the best way to deal with break-ups? And how can you forget bot your past relationship? Thank you for your time. — Anonymous
Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s hard to go through a break up in a relationship. Two of the things that help heal the hurt are:
- Time.
- Focusing on yourself and living a great life.
It’s natural to feel any number of emotions during a break up including sadness and anger. The key is to experience whatever comes your way and realize it’s a normal part of going through a break up. You might consider taking some time to heal and take care of yourself. Do things you love, study, hang out with friends, make new ones, make a list of all the wonderful things about you and display it where you can see it, plan your future and exercise.
The more you do to build yourself up and enjoy life, the better you’ll feel. Keep in mind along the way that you’re a great person who deserves to live a great life with or without a significant other. Take care.
im almost 19, never been asked out, had a boyfriend, been kissed, even been flirted with/hit on. nothing. usually im okay with it, to an extent im over it and i have given up on any chance of finding that type of love and affection, but i cant help but get brought down by it sometimes. i cant help but wonder if i am really that much of a terrible person that no one wants me in that way? — Anonymous
Thank you for sharing your situation. There are no rules about when you need to have a romantic relationship, you get to decide what you want to do and when.
You might find it helpful to think of a romantic relationship as being similar to making new friends. One of the most positive ways to meet people is to make sure you really like yourself, do things you love and hang out with people who share your interests. The more genuinely happy you are inside and the more authentically you live your life, the greater opportunity you’ll have to meet people who are attracted to you.
The key is to just be yourself and live a great life. As you do this, you’ll move in circles where people will notice you and be interested in you. The other thing you might want to think about is just being open to the idea of meeting interesting people and having friendly conversations.
There are people out there at this very moment who are waiting to meet a wonderful person like you. Live your authentic life and they’ll come along when it’s time. Take care.
Hi, my ex of 2 years left me 4 months ago because his parent's made it impossible for us/we argued because of it. He still has our photo's on facebook, I don't know why he hasn't deleted them? We agreed to be friends and he didn't bother when I tried :/ He wouldn't see me because "it would hurt too much" and he'l always "have feelings for me" I'm talkign to a guy i've known for 6 years who I have a connection with, I feel i'm cutting off any last change of my ex coming back? :/ Can you help? :/ — Anonymous
Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s hard to go through a break up in a relationship. You can’t control what he does but you can decide what you want to do. It’s always a good idea to do things that help you treat yourself well and live a great life. You might want to ask yourself a few questions to decide what you want to do, such as:
- What does the way he treated me mean?
- What do I want in a relationship?
- How do I want to be treated?
- What kind of person do I want to be with?
- What worked in the relationship, what didn’t, and how did each affect me?
- What am I doing to take care of myself?
- What am I doing to live the healthiest and most balanced life possible without a significant other in the picture?
- What decisions could I make right now that would have the highest possibility of helping me take care of myself?
Take some time to think about questions like these. Over time you’ll decide what’s best for you. The more you do to build yourself up the clearer your perspective will be. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who is drama-free and helps you live a positive life. Take care.
Hi, I got a situation that I think I am falling for a really good friend of mine. I know her over couple years, only two years apart, and even though live about 4-6 hours apart. I drive all the way there just to see her. She have been on a few bad relationship and think bad of herself. I Love this girl to death as a friend and I really want to tell her that she not worthless and I want to show her that there guys out there that will love to be with her. any advice? — Anonymous
Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s hard when you care for someone in a relationship and you want to help them feel better. The difficulty is that only they can increase their self-esteem, not you. It’s a long process that takes a lot of hard work, preferably with a therapist.
You can be supportive and encourage the person to get help but it’s very difficult to have a healthy relationship with someone who doesn’t feel good about themselves. That’s not because there’s anything wrong with them, it’s just that they need to do some work on their own to fix things.
You might want to take some time to think about what kind of relationship you really want and with what kind of person. Consider what would help you treat yourself well and move in a positive direction. In a healthy relationship, both people feel great and then add to each other’s lives. There’s nothing that says you can’t be friends, just keep in mind that the way she behaves right now is likely to be how she behaves in the future unless she decides to seek help.
In the meantime, make sure you do things to feel great about yourself and build yourself up outside this relationship. Be the happiest and healthiest you possible and live a great life. Remember that you deserve to have a relationship with someone who is healthy and can support you as much as you support them. Take care.
