Hi, I'm a 19 year old female and need some advice. I recently dated this guy at my college who I really like. He's sweet, handsome and funny. I thought we hit it off really well but a few days ago he realized he's just "not the guy for me" and that he enjoyed our time together but he'd rather just be friends. We only went on two dates together. I feel like we didn't even really get to know each other and give it a fair shot. We're going out again "as friends" soon. Do you think we'll rekindle? — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s important to listen to what people say in a relationship and what they do. He’s sending you a message and it’s up to you what you do with it.

You might think in terms of continuing to get to know him as a friend. Spend time with him, talk with him, ask him questions and learn about him without worrying about dating or relationship pressure. The more you know about him the more you’ll be able to tell if he’s the type of person you want to be with.

Remember that you deserve to be with someone who really wants to be with you and who values the real you. Take care.

Hey, so long story short. Fell so hard for a guy about a year ago, but by summer we had decided to just be friends because we were so busy. Things fell so easily into place before, it was amazing. We share similar values, hobbies and lifestyle but live a little ways away from each other (not a big deal). I have not moved on, and I don't think he has either. It seems like he likes me as well, still. What should I do about it ? Should I do anything? He is still important to me. — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s up to you to decide what kind of relationship you want. Perhaps you might find it helpful to have some calm and kind conversations with each other to find out what’s going on. Ask each other questions and listen carefully to each other. Keep it calm and friendly and just learn about each other.

It’s OK to share your thoughts and feelings with him and ask him about his. Make sure you listen to what he says and watch what he does so you can decide if things are working for you. The more you talk with him the better idea you’ll have about what you want to do next. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who is interested in you and values your feelings. Take care.