I was hanging out with this really sweet shy guy since May, but we stopped talking in November because I was just really immature and scared, I thought I had to play "hard to get". I gave him the impression I wasn't interested in him. Anyways yesterday I called him and asked if he was home because I was at a going away party on his street and wanted to talk to him. He was out and then texted me he was dating somone now. I asked how his night was, he didn't respond. Help please, any advice :( — peppermintgingerchew
Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s hard when you look back on a relationship and wish you had done something differently. The good part is that it gives you an opportunity to behave differently in the future. You might want to take some time to think about what worked and what didn’t work and then adjust accordingly in the future.
It’s OK to make mistakes, the important point is to learn from what happened in the past. As far as reaching out to him, you get to decide if you want to contact him again. If he isn’t interested, you’re still a great person. Regardless of his response, you get to take your new knowledge and build stronger relationships in the future.
Keep working on being the happiest, healthiest you possible and you’ll attract nice people who appreciate who you are. You’re worth it. Take care.
Hi. I'm 18 but I really like a guy who is 7 years older. He acts immature for his age and I act mature for my age. We made out twice last year but since then it's just skinny love. We will flirt the tiniest bit. Sometimes I get the vibe he's annoyed at me. I'm planning to tell him how I feel at a party in the summer.. what advice can you give me? your opinion? — Anonymous
Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s always a good idea to tell people what you feel as long as you’re taking care of yourself and moving your life in a positive direction. If you’re not ready to tell him directly, you might find it helpful to keep getting to know him informally so that you make sure you’re comfortable talking with him about anything.
It’s often easier to get a relationship going if you take it slowly and really get to know the person. Hang out with him, ask him questions, tell him about yourself and listen to what he says. The more you know about him the more you’ll know whether he’s a good fit for you. As you get to know him better you’ll also have a clearer picture of whether he likes you or not.
The idea in any relationship is to be with someone you know well and can talk with comfortably. Remember that you deserve to get to know interesting people and learn about them before you make important decisions. Take care.
So, there's this guy I like but he's 6 years older than me (I'm 20, he's 26). I just got out of a relationship with a guy that was the same age as me and he was way too immature. So now this new guy comes in the picture and he's flirty, in a mean/bully-ish sort of way, but he listens to my problems and he seems pretty caring. I don't know if he's just being friendly or if he may actually like me back? — Anonymous
Thank you for sharing your situation. A positive way to find out how someone else feels about you is to spend time with him. Hang out with him and do things together as friends and get to know each other. You’ll have a clearer idea whether he likes you as you get to know him better.
You might also consider the direct approach as well. You could tell him you like him or ask him. There’s a risk that he might not but there’s also the chance he might like you. The good part about talking about it is that you’ll know what’s really going on.
Remember to always take care of yourself and date people who treat you well. Take care.
