I have a hard time figuring out emotions, and tonight, after over 2 years of dating, I realised that I actually want to stay with my girlfriend rather than being with her to keep her happy. I don't know if this is love or what, but I want to at least be able to tell her I want us to be together for a long time. Any ideas as to how I can do this? — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. One of the most positive ways to keep building a relationship is to do things like:

  • Telling her how you feel and communicating openly and often.
  • Being yourself.
  • Being kind and treating her well.
  • Keep getting to know each other.
  • Share your lives with each other.

When you love someone you’re happy to spend time with them, you treat them well and you connect with them on a deeper level. You might find it helpful to just keep getting to know her and letting her know how you feel. Let the relationship grow naturally and be your amazing self. Don’t forget to enjoy each other’s company along the way. Take care.

So my boyfriend and I have been dating for sometime now, and i can tell that he wants to get a little more intimate and physical you could say.. Well he always does things to me, like caresses my stomach and my chest when we're alone together - never in front of others. I want it to progress too. What can I do to him that will kind of spice things up? — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s up to you what you do in a relationship as long as you’re treating yourself well and moving your life in a positive direction. You might consider talking calmly and kindly with him about what’s on your mind. Listen to his ideas as well. The more open you are with each other, the more you’ll understand each others’ needs.

The key is to keep talking with each other. Ask questions, share what you think and make decisions together. Get to know each other really well and you’ll be able to talk about anything. Along the way, remember to treat yourself and him with respect. Take care.

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