Relationship Advice Blog

Thank you for sharing your situation. It can take years to get to know someone really well and it’s an ongoing process. Perhaps you might think in terms of keeping the relationship going by continuing to communicate openly and sharing your lives. Keep learning about each other and growing together. Over time, you’ll know what you want to say and do.

You don’t have to say the perfect thing or behave any certain way, just be yourselves and support each other. You might also consider talking calmly and kindly with each other about this transition and listening to each other’s perspective. Remember that you both deserve to be with someone who communicates openly and is there for you. Take care.

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s always a good idea to try to date people who are fully available and able to commit to you. It’s also beneficial to pay attention to how people behave right now because that’s likely how they will act in the future.

You get to choose what kind of relationship you want and how you behave. Perhaps you might consider that positives and negatives of anything you might want to do and how it might affect you and the people around you. The key in life is to behave in ways that help you move your life in a positive direction and treat yourself and others well. Remember that you deserve to be in a relationship where both people are completely honest and there for each other. Take care.

Relationship Advice Blog

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s hard to go through a break up. A lot of people find it difficult to deal with conflict in a relationship. When something goes wrong, they explode rather than talking about things.

In a healthy relationship, both people work hard to communicate with the other person. You can both do this by practicing an important communication skill, listening. You can’t do anything to change his mind but you can offer to listen to what he has to say. If he decides to talk with you, you might find it helpful to suggest the following exercise:

• One person talks for up to five minutes about something important to him or her.
• The other person listens without interrupting or reacting negatively.
• Switch sides.
• Repeat this exercise three times daily for as long as it takes for each of you to listen to the other without getting in an argument.

The key to being able to deal with difficult issues in a relationship is for both people to be able to set aside their own stuff and listen to the other person. You both have points of view that are important and deserve attention. You can give it to each other by listening.

Try this approach if he’s willing to do it and, after plenty of practice, you’ll both be communicating without fighting. Remember that you both deserve to talk about important issues in any relationship without getting into a conflict. Take care.

Thank you for sharing your situation. You get to decide what you want in a relationship and how you want to be treated. Perhaps you might take some time to ask yourself a few questions such as:

• What kind of relationship do I want?
• How do I want to be treated?
• What’s really important to me?
• What’s worked so far and what hasn’t? What would I do differently?
• What am I doing to make sure I’m taking care of myself and moving my life in a positive direction?

These types of questions will help you decide what you want to do next. You also might find it beneficial to talk with him calmly and kindly about these things and let him know what you need. Make sure to listen to him as well. The more you learn about his perspective, the more you’ll know if he’s a good fit for you.

Remember that you deserve to be with someone who wants to be with you exclusively and treats you wonderfully. Take care.

Thank you for sharing your situation. You get to decide what’s important to you in a relationship and how you react to anything that happens in it. Perhaps you might consider telling him calmly and kindly how you feel and then listen to what he says. Have a few friendly conversations so you can get an idea of what he’s thinking and feeling. It’s also beneficial to look inside yourself to figure out what makes you feel the way you do.

The more you understand yourself and your boyfriend the more happy and balanced you’ll feel. Remember that you deserve to enjoy the great things about your relationships and work on the parts you want to improve. Take care.

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s up to you how you want to be treated in a relationship. Whatever you decide to do sends him a message as to what you’re willing to accept.

It’s always a good idea to watch how people behave in a relationship because it usually shows you how they’ll be in the future. You might consider taking some time to think about how you want to be treated and what kind of relationship you want. If you’d like, you can talk with him kindly and calmly and tell him what you need. Listen to him as well and get an idea of where he’s coming from. Once you talk a few times you’ll be able to decide what’s best for you and what you need to do to move your life in a positive direction.

Another option is to take a breath and take a break from the situation so you can do things you love and celebrate who you are without a significant other in the picture. Sometimes, taking a break will give you a clearer perspective of what’s really going on in the relationship. It’s also a good idea to listen to your inner voice, it’s the one telling you what you need to do to take care of yourself.

In a healthy relationship, the people involved are kind and attentive with each other all the time, not just sometimes. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who treats you consistently well and behaves positively. You’re worth it. Take care.

Thank you for sharing your situation. Many people push others away when things get serious in a relationship. It happens for many reasons including being scared of having a relationship or feeling like you don’t deserve a relationship.

Regardless of why you behave the way you do, it’s important to remember that you can change what you do if you’re willing to work hard to change the pattern you’ve established up to now. The first step is realizing you do it and the next is seeking help. You might want to give yourself the gift of talking with a therapist about the reasons you behave the way you do and what new skills you can learn so you can have great relationships. Once you work on yourself, you can think about bringing someone else into the picture.

You’re a wonderful person and you deserve to have meaningful and fulfilling relationships with amazing people who value the real you. To get to that point requires making sure you’re taking care of yourself and becoming the healthiest, happiest person you can be. You’re worth it. Take care.