Relationship Advice Blog

Thank you for sharing your situation. You have a lot of control over how you behave in a relationship, including whether you act jealously or not. Jealousy is about the person who experiences it. It can signal that their self-esteem is low or they need outside approval to feel great about themselves.

The good news is that you get to decide whether you are jealous or not. Try the following exercise to interrupt the pattern:

• When you feel jealousy coming on think of a word, action or image or thought that will replace it. For example: If you feel jealous you tell yourself, “I’m great and I’m not going to behave jealously.” Another example is writing down your thoughts and letting them go. The idea is to find something that interrupts your thinking pattern.
• Even if you feel like it’s not working, keep practicing. Do it for 30 days and at the end of that time period decide if it’s working or you need to do it for another 30 days.
• Keep practicing until you don’t feel the jealousy.

It takes time to change your thoughts and behaviors but, if you’re willing to practice a different approach for some time, you’ll be able to change the way you do things.

An additional thing you can do is to make sure you’re the healthiest and most balanced person possible without a significant other. Do things you love and build yourself up. The better you feel about yourself, the easier it will be to feel things other than jealousy. You might also consider giving yourself the gift of seeing a therapist so you can learn some positive skills to deal with jealousy and discover how wonderful you are.

Remember that you deserve to work on yourself and get rid of the jealousy so you can enjoy healthy relationships. Take care.

Relationship Advice Blog

Thank you for sharing your situation. You get to decide how you behave in any relationship and that will affect how people perceive you. For example: If you act like a guy, you’ll be treated like a guy. Perhaps you might take some time to think about what you want to do next and then have a kind and calm conversation with whomever is involved when you feel like the time is appropriate.

In the meantime, it’s OK to keep getting to know people as friends. A lot of positive romantic relationship grow out of strong friendships because the people know and trust each other. Take your time and keep communicating openly. Ask them questions and listen to what they have to say as well as telling them what you’re thinking. Over time you’ll get a sense for what you want to do next.

Remember that you deserve to be treated the way you want to be treated and enjoy healthy romantic relationships as well. Take care.

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s up to you how you behave in any relationship. Perhaps you might take some time to think about the reasons you think and act the way you and ask yourself some questions such as:

• What kind of person do I want to be with?
• What do I do when someone isn’t the way I want them to be?
• What do I need in a relationship?
• What’s worked so far, what hasn’t and what would I do differently?
• What issues do I need to address within myself that will help me feel great and treat myself and my significant other well?
• What am I doing to make sure I’m as healthy and balanced as possible before bringing someone else into my life?

Feelings such as worry, insecurity, dissatisfaction or need for attachment come from inside the person experiencing them. If you’re feeling things like these you might want to give yourself the gift of talking with a therapist to learn new skills to deal with things and discover how great you are. The happier you are with yourself, the more likely you’ll be able to enjoy your relationships.

Remember that it’s important for each person in the relationship to be healthy and able to appreciate and support the other person. Take care.

Relationship Advice Blog

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s always a good idea to try to date people who are fully available and able to commit to you. It’s also beneficial to pay attention to how people behave right now because that’s likely how they will act in the future.

You get to choose what kind of relationship you want and how you behave. Perhaps you might consider that positives and negatives of anything you might want to do and how it might affect you and the people around you. The key in life is to behave in ways that help you move your life in a positive direction and treat yourself and others well. Remember that you deserve to be in a relationship where both people are completely honest and there for each other. Take care.

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Thank you for sharing your situation. You get to decide with whom you have a relationship and how you behave. It’s always a good idea to communicate openly with the people involved and let them know what you’re thinking and feeling. Perhaps you might ask yourself a few questions to clarify what you want to tell them, such as:

• What kind of relationship do I want?
• What do I really want to do?
• What would I want to say to them?
• What can I do to make sure I treat everyone well?
• What are the likely results of any decision I might make?
• How can I behave so I can be proud of my actions?

You get to decide how you behave in life and in any relationship. Take some time to think about what you want to do and then talk calmly and kindly with the people involved. You can’t do anything about how people react but you can make sure to listen to them and treat them kindly.

Remember that you deserve to be in a relationship that doesn’t come with extra baggage or complications and that helps you behave in a positive way. Take care.

Thank you for sharing your situation. You can’t do anything about how other people behave in any relationship, it’s up to them to decide what they want to do. People don’t always know how to behave when they’re in a difficult situation or feel uncomfortable.

You get to decide how you behave and it’s always a good idea to treat yourself well and move your life in a positive direction. You might consider letting him know what you’re thinking in a kind and friendly way and then moving on. Give him time to think. If he wants to be in contact with you he’ll come around; if not, you’re still a great person.

One of the biggest lessons in life is that we can’t control how other people behave. The key is to find people who value the real you, treat you well and want to spend time with you. You’re worth it. Take care. 

Relationship Advice Blog

Thank you for sharing your situation. You get to decide what you do in any relationship and it’s up to you what you want to do next. If you really want to be with him then you might want to think about what you would need to do to make that happen. If you’re not sure then it’s OK not to pursue things.

It’s important to keep in mind that it doesn’t matter what other people think. You’re a wonderful person no matter what anyone thinks and you get to decide how you behave and what kind of life you live. You might consider talking with him and continuing to get to know him on a friendly basis without putting pressure on yourself. Hang out with him, talk and ask him questions in a friendly way. Listen to him and find out more about him so you can decide if he’s a good fit for you.

The more you know about him the easier it will be to talk about things and make decisions. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who makes an effort to be with you and likes the real you. Take care.