i dated one of my best friends. it didnt go well he got too cotrolling and wanted to be around me all the time. we tried to be friends but it didnt really work. we see each other a lot but we dont talk we act like we dont see each other even tho we do see each other. he always looks away when he sese me. he has a gf now but i dont get him. we havent talked in a few years and i tried clearing the air. not sure yet of the outcome. but i dont get why he always hides from me if he has a gf. — Anonymous
Thank you for sharing your situation. You can’t do anything about how other people behave in any relationship, it’s up to them to decide what they want to do. People don’t always know how to behave when they’re in a difficult situation or feel uncomfortable.
You get to decide how you behave and it’s always a good idea to treat yourself well and move your life in a positive direction. You might consider letting him know what you’re thinking in a kind and friendly way and then moving on. Give him time to think. If he wants to be in contact with you he’ll come around; if not, you’re still a great person.
One of the biggest lessons in life is that we can’t control how other people behave. The key is to find people who value the real you, treat you well and want to spend time with you. You’re worth it. Take care.
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I love my boyfriend with all of my heart. I do, he is absolutely beautiful to me. I also think the same about my very best friend. However, her new boyfriend and his best friend is someone... I don't think deserves to breathe. I have tried to give this guy a chance, but he is the rudest and most sickening person I have ever met on this Earth. He has done wrongdoings to me that I would not tolerate from anyone. I feel extremely alone in all of this, and am clueless as to what to do. Help please? — Anonymous
Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s up to you what you do in any relationship and what limits and boundaries you set. If you don’t like this person you have two major options:
- Stay away from him.
- Try to talk with him and improve the situation.
You can’t do anything about how other people behave, you can only control what you do. Take some time to think about what you want to do and how you can help yourself live a great life. Talk to people you trust and keep thinking about a positive solution. The idea is to either stay away from him or fix things, not keep a negative situation going.
When you keep focusing on negative energy it hurts you. That’s why it’s important for you to figure out how to heal yourself and feel better. You’re worth it. Take care.
I want to break up with my bf of 2 years. I love him VERY much. He's great to me. BUT he doesn't go to the dentist, I have to remind him all the time to shave, cut his hair and nails, clean his ears, and he's pretty overweight. When I try to help him, he gets defensive and says he knows what he needs to do...but he hasn't done much. I feel if he doesn't know how to take care of HIMSELF, then he isn't ready to be in a relationship. It's hard, but is my reason valid? — Anonymous
Thank you for sharing your situation. You get to decide who you want to be with in a relationship and what’s acceptable behavior. It’s up to you to choose people that meet your needs and are a good fit for you. You might find it helpful to think about what you want in a relationship and ask yourself a few questions such as:
- What kind of person do I want to be with?
- How do I want them to behave?
- What are the qualities my significant other must have?
- What things are negotiable?
- What has worked in my current relationship and what hasn’t?
- What would I do differently in the future?
- What will I do when someone doesn’t fit my needs?
You can’t do anything about how other people behave, it’s up to them to fix themselves. What you can do is be with people who make you feel great and help you move your life in a positive direction. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who is a good match for you, cares about himself and cares about you. Take care.
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how do i prove to a guy that i really want to be with him, but he won't believe me no matter what i say. i need actions to speak for me. and it's gotta be big cus i've hurt this guy — Anonymous
Thank you for sharing your situation. You can’t control how other people behave but you can control what you do. When someone has been hurt in a relationship it’s up to them to decide when and if they want to continue being with the other person. It’s natural for people to want to spend time to think about things and take care of themselves when something negative has happened.
You might consider just letting him know how you feel and that you’re there for him. You don’t have to say anything complicated or long, just let him know how you feel inside and keep it brief.
Then let go and live the best life you can live. Be a wonderful person and behave in positive ways. Figure out what you would do differently in the future. Pay some attention to who you want to be and what you need to grow and succeed. Treat yourself well and build yourself up.
The idea is to just live your life in a constructive way. If he decides to come back into your life he will. If not, you’ll still be living a positive life. Remember that you deserve to be in relationship where you both treat each other well. Take care.
