I've been hanging out/casual dating this guy for a month now, and he's lead me to believe it was going somewhere and that he enjoyed spending time with me. We have a lot in common and I've told him already that I liked him. He went away on vacation, but kissed me before leaving, and while he was gone he kept telling me how excited he was to see me again. The day he got back he started ignoring my texts and messages on facebook out of no where. Any idea what could have prompted this? :( — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s hard when someone’s behavior changes suddenly in a relationship and it’s difficult to tell what he’s thinking if he won’t talk with you. You might want to ask yourself a few questions to help you find your own answers:

  • What is his behavior telling me?
  • How do I want to be treated in a relationship?
  • What action would be appropriate for me to take based on his behavior?
  • What can I do to make sure I take care of myself and keep moving in a positive direction?
  • What’s worked so far, what hasn’t and what would I do differently?

Take some time to think about questions like these and you’ll be able to decide what you want to do. If you’d like, you can offer to talk with him and then let it go. If he comes around, the two of you can talk; if not, you have the opportunity to move on and find someone who wants to spend time with you.

Don’t forget that, regardless of how he behaves, you’re still a wonderful person. You might find it helpful to focus your energy on building yourself up, doing things you love and treating yourself well. As you live a great life, you’ll attract great people who appreciate the real you. You’re worth it. Take care.

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My current boyfriend is not friends with any of his exs, he actually hates them all, Should this be a red flag? I feel like it is. Whenever I ask ablut them he only has really bad things to say. — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s always a good idea in any relationship to be aware of how someone has behaved in past. This will usually be a reliable indicator of how they will behave with you, unless they work hard and for a long time to change the pattern.

The key in any relationship is to listen to your inner voice. It’s the one telling you if his behavior is positive or negative. Pay close attention to what he’s saying and what it might mean about his behavior and then decide if it’s a good fit for you. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who behaves kindly, treats you and others well and says great things about people in general. You’re worth it. Take care.

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I was flirting with a staff member at the club and he said, "I can't wait to bump into you off the clock (because he was working and worried he would get in trouble)". So, I gave him my number and he kissed my hand. This happened Saturday and he has yet to call or text. Was he not really that interested or has he just not got around to getting in contact? — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s hard to tell what anyone is thinking in a relationship without asking them. Perhaps you might think about what you want to know about him and then talking with him. It’s also beneficial to pay close attention to his behavior and decide if it matches how you want to be treated.

Keep in mind that it’s important to move forward slowly and get to know him well before you decide if he’s a good fit for you. That will help you take care of yourself and make positive decisions. Also keep in mind that if someone is really interested in you they will treat you with respect, want to spend time with you and follow up promptly because they value who you are. Their actions will also match their words. Take care.

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Hello, Im having some issues with my boyfriend. I lived in California and in that time i met a guy. Well he asked me out and I said yes. We had been going out for about a month and then i found out i had to move to Tennessee. We both agreed to stay in a relationship. Basicly long distance. We skype and text and call each other. But all the sudden he has been ignoring me. I later found out (he told me himself) that he has a crush on another girl but he claims he still likes me. Can you help me? — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. You get to decide what you do in any relationship. Perhaps you might take some time to think about what his behavior is telling you. Keep in mind that the way he’s behaved up to now is likely to be what he’ll do in the future unless he works hard to change it. It’s also a good idea to evaluate what he says to make sure if it makes sense to you.

Think about what you would like to tell him and then talk with him calmly and kindly. Listen to what he says as well without reacting negatively or interrupting; just learn about his point of view. The idea is to gather information so you can decide what you want to do. You can’t do anything to change his behavior but you can make sure to take care of yourself and move your life in a positive direction.

Remember that you deserve to be with someone who communicates with you and wants to work on keeping the relationship going. You’re worth it. Take care.

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i have been romantically and physically involved with someone for the past few months. it has been the most committed relationship i’ve ever been in, yet we cannot call it a relationship because he doesn’t want to commit. he is worried that he won’t be able to be there for me. this weekend we ‘broke up’ because he panicked when i found myself in a scary situation and called him to tell him about it. he cares too deeply for me and doesn’t want to have to care so much for anyone.

he is my best friend and i really want to continue to be involved with him. i was visiting him when we broke up and he told me to stay over and not to go looking for another place to sleep, so i stayed over and we cuddled all night. i was on my period all weekend and my hormones were going crazy because i had taken plan b at the beginning of the month. i told him I wasn’t myself and he said he wouldn’t judge me. i dont know if we are still together. i love him and i want him to commit. help

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Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s always important to make decisions in a relationship that help you treat yourself well and move your life in a positive direction. That means behaving in ways that are positive for you, not that might create difficulties.

You might want to take some time to think about your situation and what’s best for you. Ask yourself some questions such as:

  • If I continue to do what I’m doing now, where will it end up and how will it affect my life?
  • What’s worked so far, what hasn’t and what might I do differently to move in a positive direction?
  • What does his behavior up to now tell me?
  • What kind of relationship do I want?
  • What am I doing to make sure I treat myself well and move in a positive direction?
  • What am I doing to be the happiest, healthiest me possible without a significant other in the picture?

Take some time to think carefully about questions like these. It’s always beneficial to think about things before doing anything. Perhaps you could have some conversations where you both talk about what’s important to you and listen to each other. The more you know about each other, the more information you’ll have to make beneficial decisions.

You can’t change what he thinks or does, only he can do that. Pay attention to his behavior up to now. The things he’s done so far are likely to be what he’ll do in the future. It’s up to you to decide if that’s what you want. The only person’s behavior you can control is yours.

Do come careful thinking and remember that you deserve to be in a healthy relationship with someone who is willing to commit to you. Take care.

Long story short, me and my ex ended in a harsh way, and he has completely cutt me off from his life. I'm still in love, and i miss him. Advice for moving on? P.S, do you think he misses me too? Our relationship was pure love and happiness, it ended over the arguments we frequently started having during the last time of our relationship. — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s hard to go through a break up in a relationship. You can’t guess what he thinks but you can look at his behavior to give you clues. What you know right now is that he’s behaved a certain way. You might want to ask yourself a few questions to decide what you want to do next, such as:

  • What does his behavior tell me about how he feels about me?
  • What kind of relationship do I want and is he behaving that way?
  • What kind of person do I want to be with and is he behaving that way?
  • What worked in the relationship and what didn’t? What would I do differently in the future?
  • What am I doing to be the happiest and healthiest me possible without a significant other?
  • What am I doing to live a great life without a significant other?

Take some time to think about questions like these and you’ll eventually find an answer that works for you. The key is to live the best life you can and treat yourself well. The happier and more fulfilled you are on you own, the better chance you’ll have of attracting someone who appreciates the real you. Remember that you deserve to be in a relationship with someone who wants to be with you and is willing to talk about things. Take care.

Hi! So I was dating this guy for a while, and things seemed like they were going great. We had fun together, talked throughout the week, etc. Anyways, he invited me to a New Year's party and I said I would go. I was excited to see him and kiss him at midnight, but he pretty much stood me up. A few hours before the party, he stopped responding to my texts all together and we haven't talked since. Help! Did I do something wrong? Should I text/call him? Any advice would be great. — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s always important to pay close attention to how people behave in a relationship because it’s a sign of how they will behave in the future. His behavior has nothing to do with you, it’s just what he does. You can’t do anything to fix it or change it, only he can do that.

The only behavior you can control is yours and you get to decide what you’ll accept in a relationship. You might want to take some time to think about what kind of relationship you want and how you want to be treated. In a healthy relationship, the people treat each other with respect and don’t stand each other up. They’re there for each other and treat each other with kindness.

Take some time to think about what kind of relationship you deserve. Eventually you’ll arrive at a decision that works for you. Remember that you deserve to date people who are there for you and treat you wonderfully. Take care.