Relationship Advice Blog

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s up to you how you behave in any relationship. Perhaps you might take some time to think about the reasons you think and act the way you and ask yourself some questions such as:

• What kind of person do I want to be with?
• What do I do when someone isn’t the way I want them to be?
• What do I need in a relationship?
• What’s worked so far, what hasn’t and what would I do differently?
• What issues do I need to address within myself that will help me feel great and treat myself and my significant other well?
• What am I doing to make sure I’m as healthy and balanced as possible before bringing someone else into my life?

Feelings such as worry, insecurity, dissatisfaction or need for attachment come from inside the person experiencing them. If you’re feeling things like these you might want to give yourself the gift of talking with a therapist to learn new skills to deal with things and discover how great you are. The happier you are with yourself, the more likely you’ll be able to enjoy your relationships.

Remember that it’s important for each person in the relationship to be healthy and able to appreciate and support the other person. Take care.

Relationship Advice Blog

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s hard to go through a break up but it can also be an opportunity to reflect and heal. It’s important for both people in a relationship to be as healthy as possible so they can help themselves and each other grow and enjoy life. You might think about taking some time to take care of yourself exclusively without worrying about a significant other.

Consider giving yourself the gift of seeing a therapist so you can discover how great you are and learn skills to cope with depression. They may even suggest other beneficial resources. Celebrate who you are as well. Do things you love, hang out with other interesting people, plan your future, study, exercise and find out who you are as a person.

The stronger and healthier you get, the more likely you’ll be to attract wonderful people into your life. Once you’ve taken some time to heal yourself you’ll also have a new perspective on your current relationship situation as well as future ones. Remember that you’re an important person and you deserve to take care of yourself first and then invite amazing people into your life. Take care. 

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s always a good idea to be yourself in a relationship and be with someone who is compatible with you and meets your needs.

There are no rules saying you have to fight. In healthy relationships, the people communicate openly with each other without raising their voices or creating chaos. They work on talking frankly, kindly and calmly and working on solutions that work for both of them.

Many people have been taught that relationships have to have fights in them because that’s what they saw in their own families or learned from friends. It’s up to you whether you want to keep that pattern going. It tends to feel much better to be in a relationship where you treat yourself well and move forward in a positive direction.

Remember that you deserve a relationship that is healthy and balanced and where you work together to be happy. You’re worth it. Take care.

Thank you for your question. It’s important to be in a relationship where the other person is there for you and values who you are. What often happens in a rebound situation is that the person coming out of a relationship dates someone in order to feel good for a while and then moves on. Some of the signs you may be in a rebound relationship include:

• The person just got out of a long-term, serious relationship.
• The person just got out of a marriage.
• The person says they don’t want a serious relationship.
• The person says they just want to have fun.
• The person talks a lot about their previous relationship.
• The person doesn’t seem to be ready to commit to you, or in other cases, is too eager to commit and get into a serious relationship.
• The person needs a lot of support and help but doesn’t give you a lot.
• The person compares you to their previous relationship.
• Your inner voice tells you you’re in a rebound relationship.

Think about your current situation. If something doesn’t feel quite right, listen to your intuition. In a healthy relationship, the person is fully available, healthy, ready to focus their attention on you and doesn’t have baggage from a relationship that just ended. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who wants a healthy, meaningful relationship with you. Take care.

Thank you for your question. People who are quite different can have a successful relationship. Some of the qualities of a positive relationship are:

• Excellent communication.
• Empathy.
• Shared values.
• Mutual support.
• Both people are healthy on their own.
• Respect.
• Kindness.
• Mutual attraction.

There’s no magic formula as to whether a relationship will work but, if the people do these things, they’ll have a higher likelihood of success. Take care.

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s always a good idea for both people in a relationship to feel good about themselves first so that they can be there for each other. You can’t change how he feels about himself, he will need to work on that on his own, preferably with a therapist. He might consider finding a therapist he’s comfortable with and talking about his issues so he can heal and discover how great he is.

It’s up to you what you want to do and how you celebrate the wonderful things about you. You decide what kind of relationship you want to be in and with what type of person. Keep in mind that it’s beneficial to be in a relationship that helps you feel great and move your life in a positive direction. It’s hard to have a relationship where you take care of someone else because it leaves little or no time for you to take care of yourself.

You might want to take some time to think about what you need and what you want to say to your boyfriend. Then you can have some kind and calm conversations where you tell him what you need and listen to him. The idea is to learn about each other and figure out what your next step is. You might both think in terms of getting as healthy and balanced as possible on your own before continuing to build a relationship.

Remember that you both deserve to feel great about yourselves and be in a relationship that makes you happy. Take care.

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s rarely too late to start a romantic relationship if the other person is available and open to the idea. Some of the best relationships are built on a healthy friendship. You might take some time to think about what you would like to see happen and what you want to say to him. Keep it simple, friendly and brief and then find a time when you both can talk without interruptions or distractions.

You don’t have to be really serious or change who you are. It can be helpful to phrase things in the form of a question and just listen to the other person’s response, as in: “What are you thoughts on you and me dating someday?” or “In what ways do you see our relationship developing in the future?” It’s a good idea to ask questions that require more than a yes or no answer. You’re also welcome to tell him how you feel in the same friendly, brief way.

There are no rules you need to follow as long as you’re moving in a positive direction, all you have to do is be yourself. Remember that you deserve to enjoy happy relationships with people you know well. Take care.