I recently met a guy & we've been spending a lot of time together lately.. He just confessed to me, that he likes me via text message. He was planning on telling me in person, but we missed each other. Now he's gone for a weekend, and there is no way I can reach him. How can I tell him on monday that I dont want a relationship, but dont want our friendship to end either? How can I tell him without hurting his feelings? — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s always a good idea to communicate clearly and kindly with people in any relationship. Perhaps you might take some time to think about what you want to tell him and then talk with him in a gentle and caring way. The idea is to let him know what you feel and do it nicely.

You can’t do anything about how he reacts but you can be there for him, listen to him and let him know what his friendship means to you. Remember that you get to decide how you interact with people and what kind of relationship you want. Take care.

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Okay, let me start off by saying I feel like a bad person for this but here it goes...I started dating my boyfriend on January 21, 2012 so no, we haven't been together for long at all, but every time I go over there, I grow to like his younger brother even more, and I'm positive he likes me too which makes it so much harder to deal with. Him & I went on an adventure to the grocery store without my boyfriend and I was seriously dreading having to go back and spend time with him...what do I do?!? — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. You get to decide with whom you have a relationship and how you behave. It’s always a good idea to communicate openly with the people involved and let them know what you’re thinking and feeling. Perhaps you might ask yourself a few questions to clarify what you want to tell them, such as:

  • What kind of relationship do I want?
  • What do I really want to do?
  • What would I want to say to them?
  • What can I do to make sure I treat everyone well?
  • What are the likely results of any decision I might make?
  • How can I behave so I can be proud of my actions?

You get to decide how you behave in life and in any relationship. Take some time to think about what you want to do and then talk calmly and kindly with the people involved. You can’t do anything about how people react but you can make sure to listen to them and treat them kindly.

Remember that you deserve to be in a relationship that doesn’t come with extra baggage or complications and that helps you behave in a positive way. Take care.

hey, how are you? when aguy changes the subject and he reflects the topic on himself , does that mean. He likes me? well , i keep asking him hows hes family doing and and its the third time he keeps ignoring it.. Can you tell some signs of aguy liking a girl. Thank you for your time.. xoxoxo — Anonymous

I’m doing well, thank you for sharing your situation. One of the best ways to tell what someone is trying to tell you in a relationship is to ask them. Perhaps you might think about what you want to know about him and then ask him a question. Listen to what he says carefully and ask another question if you want more information.

Some of the signs of someone liking you are:

  • They want to hang out with you.
  • They find you interesting.
  • They tell you they like you.
  • They say nice things to you or do nice things for you.
  • They have a good time when they’re with you.

You might find it helpful to just keep getting to know this person. Be friendly and talk with him about things. Make sure you ask him questions and listen to him. The idea is to get to know each other well so you don’t have to guess what’s going on in the relationship. 

Be yourself and, if he likes you, it will be because he likes the real you. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who genuinely likes you and treats you well. Take care. 

Hey, so long story short. Fell so hard for a guy about a year ago, but by summer we had decided to just be friends because we were so busy. Things fell so easily into place before, it was amazing. We share similar values, hobbies and lifestyle but live a little ways away from each other (not a big deal). I have not moved on, and I don't think he has either. It seems like he likes me as well, still. What should I do about it ? Should I do anything? He is still important to me. — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s up to you to decide what kind of relationship you want. Perhaps you might find it helpful to have some calm and kind conversations with each other to find out what’s going on. Ask each other questions and listen carefully to each other. Keep it calm and friendly and just learn about each other.

It’s OK to share your thoughts and feelings with him and ask him about his. Make sure you listen to what he says and watch what he does so you can decide if things are working for you. The more you talk with him the better idea you’ll have about what you want to do next. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who is interested in you and values your feelings. Take care.

There is this guy and he likes me and I like him.... he is the first guy to like me in a very long time. My question is this he first kiss I know you can't plan it but I am very hesitant to give that up it will literally be my FIRST kiss I am scared of doing it wrong and just letting myself give that away I also know that first kisses are usually the worst but I want mine to be special we haven't known each other that long so I am very scared to kiss him on New Years Eve if I even should Help me — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. A first kiss is different for everyone so it’s important to figure out what you want to do. It’s always a good idea to go with what you think is appropriate and helps you move in a positive direction.

There’s no such thing as a perfect kiss or the right way to kiss, everyone has different preferences. Just be yourself and do what you want to do. You might consider talking with him about it. Ask him what he thinks and let him know how you feel. Listen to each other and be there for each other.

It’s always beneficial to know someone well before you make any decisions about kissing or anything else. The more comfortable you are around the person the better idea you’ll have of what you want to do.

Make sure to listen to your inner voice, it’s telling you what’s right for you. Remember that you deserve to be comfortable in a relationship and express yourself in a way you find appropriate. Take care.

I started going to a different church a month ago. I like a guy there & I heard he likes me too. He tried talking to me. I didn't know what to say & all I did was laugh at his jokes. I'm not normally shy & I really don't know what to talk about. We're usually in a group together & it makes it harder to talk to each other. I heard other girls at church like him so I need some quick advice! But I don't want to rush anything too fast. Please, please help. — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s OK to go at your own pace in any relationship. You might find it beneficial to get to know him on a friendly basis. You can even learn more about him when other people are around because there’s less pressure. You don’t have to behave any certain way or say perfect things to get to know him. All you have to do is be yourself.

You might consider just hanging out with him, talking with him, telling him about yourself, listening to him and just getting to know him to see what kind of person he is. Be yourself and act in a way that feels natural to you, like you’re not being someone else. If he likes the kind of person you are, then he’ll be interested. If he doesn’t, then you’re still a great person and you can focus on someone who is interested in you.

The idea when starting a new relationship is to have the other person like you for who you are. That way they like the real you and the relationship starts on a positive note. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who appreciates who you really are. Take care.

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So I like this guy & I've known him since we were in kindergarten. We're don't have much in common & he's not really my type, but I can't help but like him. Whenever we're together, there's never an awkward moment. We've hugged a few times, but that's about it. Sometimes I feel like he likes me, but I always doubt if he really does because I feel like he's just being nice. I've only told two people how I feel about him. I don't know if I should pursue him or not. Help? — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. Some of the best relationships are built on a strong friendship. It’s up to you to decide what you want to do. There are a few things you might think about to figure out what you want to do including:

  • Do some thinking and ask yourself how you really feel about him and what your ideal scenario would be.  
  • If you’re interested, talk with him and ask him how he feels.
  • Be friends if you want to go in that direction.
  • Keep letting the relationship develop as it has up to now.

One of the best ways to clarify what’s going on is to talk calmly and kindly with each other and listen to what the other person has to say. It doesn’t have to be super serious, just talk in a friendly way about what’s on your minds.

Think about what’s important to you and how you really feel about him. You’ll eventually arrive at a decision that makes sense to you and leads you in a positive direction. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who you’re comfortable with and who likes you back. Take care.