Hi, my ex of 2 years left me 4 months ago because his parent's made it impossible for us/we argued because of it. He still has our photo's on facebook, I don't know why he hasn't deleted them? We agreed to be friends and he didn't bother when I tried :/ He wouldn't see me because "it would hurt too much" and he'l always "have feelings for me" I'm talkign to a guy i've known for 6 years who I have a connection with, I feel i'm cutting off any last change of my ex coming back? :/ Can you help? :/ — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s hard to go through a break up in a relationship. You can’t control what he does but you can decide what you want to do. It’s always a good idea to do things that help you treat yourself well and live a great life. You might want to ask yourself a few questions to decide what you want to do, such as:

  • What does the way he treated me mean?
  • What do I want in a relationship?
  • How do I want to be treated?
  • What kind of person do I want to be with?
  • What worked in the relationship, what didn’t, and how did each affect me?
  • What am I doing to take care of myself?
  • What am I doing to live the healthiest and most balanced life possible without a significant other in the picture?
  • What decisions could I make right now that would have the highest possibility of helping me take care of myself?

Take some time to think about questions like these. Over time you’ll decide what’s best for you. The more you do to build yourself up the clearer your perspective will be. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who is drama-free and helps you live a positive life. Take care.