My friend and I have known each other for a couple years, but didn’t actually become friends until last year. When we’re away at school, we’re 8 hours apart. Next year he’s going to be studying aboard for a year. He admitted to liking me (the feeling is mutual), but then apologized bc he’s avoided me over winter break since he won’t have time to invest in a relationship in the future. My question is how can I get him to realize I’m not trying to date him and just want to hang as friends. — Anonymous
Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s always a good idea to be open and clear with the other person in any relationship. You might think about what you want to tell him and then have a conversation with him. Make sure to keep it brief, kind, caring and friendly. Let him know what you want and what you would like to see happen.
You can’t do anything about how he reacts but you can tell him kindly and calmly what you think and feel. Make sure to listen to him without reacting negatively, just listen. Remember that it’s OK to tell people what you want and set limits and boundaries you’re comfortable with. Take care.
