I was hanging out with this really sweet shy guy since May, but we stopped talking in November because I was just really immature and scared, I thought I had to play "hard to get". I gave him the impression I wasn't interested in him. Anyways yesterday I called him and asked if he was home because I was at a going away party on his street and wanted to talk to him. He was out and then texted me he was dating somone now. I asked how his night was, he didn't respond. Help please, any advice :( — peppermintgingerchew
Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s hard when you look back on a relationship and wish you had done something differently. The good part is that it gives you an opportunity to behave differently in the future. You might want to take some time to think about what worked and what didn’t work and then adjust accordingly in the future.
It’s OK to make mistakes, the important point is to learn from what happened in the past. As far as reaching out to him, you get to decide if you want to contact him again. If he isn’t interested, you’re still a great person. Regardless of his response, you get to take your new knowledge and build stronger relationships in the future.
Keep working on being the happiest, healthiest you possible and you’ll attract nice people who appreciate who you are. You’re worth it. Take care.
So I have this guy who is basically my best friend, we have a past (we've been friends since we were little kids). We had a couple of gap years, but last year found each other and we automatically clicked right away. We obviously flirt with each other, half of it being we have so much in common, sometimes I feel like he's the guy version of me. We're each others go to when we have exciting news. But all at the same time, he hasn't made a move on me. Is ittoo late? am I stuck in the friend zone? — justsmile1111
Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s rarely too late to start a romantic relationship if the other person is available and open to the idea. Some of the best relationships are built on a healthy friendship. You might take some time to think about what you would like to see happen and what you want to say to him. Keep it simple, friendly and brief and then find a time when you both can talk without interruptions or distractions.
You don’t have to be really serious or change who you are. It can be helpful to phrase things in the form of a question and just listen to the other person’s response, as in: “What are you thoughts on you and me dating someday?” or “In what ways do you see our relationship developing in the future?” It’s a good idea to ask questions that require more than a yes or no answer. You’re also welcome to tell him how you feel in the same friendly, brief way.
There are no rules you need to follow as long as you’re moving in a positive direction, all you have to do is be yourself. Remember that you deserve to enjoy happy relationships with people you know well. Take care.
Im 18, ive recently broken up from a year and a half relationship with a guy. He left me because he wanted more freedom. During the end of our relationship I cheated on him, I didnt say I cheated on him because I was so scared of what would happen. It really hurt inside that I couldnt tell him, now that we are apart I feel like I should let him know, but I am really scared of what he will do, should I leave it and forget about it? or let it out and tell him? — Anonymous
Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s up to you to decide what you want to do. Sometimes it’s best to let things end in a dignified way instead of bringing up painful memories that happened during the course of the relationship.
You might think about spending some time focusing on yourself. Think about what worked and what didn’t work in your relationship. Consider what you might do differently in the future. The idea is to learn from the experience so you don’t repeat the patterns that led you to where you are today. Don’t forget to treat yourself well: do things you love, build yourself up and learn about who you are. The more healthy and balanced you become, the more enjoyable your relationships will be in the future.
The idea in any healthy relationship is to communicate openly about things while you’re in it. Remember that you deserve to be in a relationship where you both communicate with each other and you treat each other with care and respect. Take care.
So, the guy i've liked for the past 3 months or so, asked my best friend out. She said no but i'm really sad and don't know how to move on. Should I move on? Or should I try to impress him? If so, how do I get him to like me? I'm totally confused. — Anonymous
Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s always a good idea to behave in ways that help you feel great about yourself first. You might want to take some time to gain some perspective and give everyone a rest before doing anything. Think in terms of taking care of yourself and doing some thinking so you can make an informed, thoughtful decision.
You might find it helpful to simply talk with the people involved in a friendly manner. Have some kind conversations with them, let them know what you’re thinking and listen to them. Keep it casual, respectful and friendly. You don’t have to do anything immediately, there’s no rush.
It’s also beneficial to take some time to let things settle down before making a decision. In the meantime, do some fun things on your own and hang out with people you care about. Celebrate how great you are on your own. After some time, you’ll have a clearer idea of what you want to do. Take care.
