So I have this guy who is basically my best friend, we have a past (we've been friends since we were little kids). We had a couple of gap years, but last year found each other and we automatically clicked right away. We obviously flirt with each other, half of it being we have so much in common, sometimes I feel like he's the guy version of me. We're each others go to when we have exciting news. But all at the same time, he hasn't made a move on me. Is ittoo late? am I stuck in the friend zone? — justsmile1111

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s rarely too late to start a romantic relationship if the other person is available and open to the idea. Some of the best relationships are built on a healthy friendship. You might take some time to think about what you would like to see happen and what you want to say to him. Keep it simple, friendly and brief and then find a time when you both can talk without interruptions or distractions.

You don’t have to be really serious or change who you are. It can be helpful to phrase things in the form of a question and just listen to the other person’s response, as in: “What are you thoughts on you and me dating someday?” or “In what ways do you see our relationship developing in the future?” It’s a good idea to ask questions that require more than a yes or no answer. You’re also welcome to tell him how you feel in the same friendly, brief way.

There are no rules you need to follow as long as you’re moving in a positive direction, all you have to do is be yourself. Remember that you deserve to enjoy happy relationships with people you know well. Take care.

There is a guy I like and I don't know if he likes me too but I am pretty sure he does. I heard that guys like it when girls make the first move but I want him to. How do I show him that I like him too and not push him away because I don't want to go into the friend zone. — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. You might enjoy just getting to know him as if you’re making friends. Hang out with him, talk about things you like, listen to him and be yourself. You can even tell him directly that you like him.

Don’t worry about having to act a certain way or do certain things, just be you. If he likes you, that’s great. If not, you’re still a wonderful person and you can focus your energy on someone else. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who appreciates the real you. Take care.