I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years last week. I definately made the right decision, I had to do what was best for me because I felt like he didn't care anymore. The only thing is, I don't feel that sad, and I can see he's so depressed about it. I feel guilty that I don't actually feel sad about it. I get little pangs every now and again but nothing huge. Is there something wrong with me? :/ — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. You get to feel whatever you feel in any relationship or after a break up. It’s normal to feel guilty or sad when someone is hurt. Any feelings of hurt, sadness or guilt usually lessen over time for both people. Also keep in mind that it’s fine for you to be kind to him or talk with him if you want, as long as it’s clear that you’re there as a friend.

It’s OK to take care of yourself and find a positive relationship that works for you. In the end, it’s also better for the other person because they can find someone who is compatible with them. Remember that you deserve to have confidence in your decisions and date people who are a good fit for you. Take care.

how do you get more confidence and self esteem — Anonymous

Thank you for your question. Confidence and self-esteem can affect every part of your life including any relationship you’re in. One of the most positive ways to gain confidence and self-esteem is to do things to feel great about yourself such as:

  • Do things you love.
  • Plan your future.
  • Treat yourself well.
  • Hang out with positive people.
  • Study and learn.
  • Work hard.
  • Celebrate your successes and the great things about you.
  • Listen to your inner voice and live the life you want to.
  • Be your own biggest fan and say nice things to yourself.

When you do things like these over time you’ll feel better about yourself. It takes time and effort but it eventually works. Remember that you don’t have to do everything at once, try one small thing each day. Small actions have a way of adding up to big accomplishments.

Remember that you deserve to believe in yourself because you’re the only you in the world and you’re an amazing person. Take care.