Relationship Advice Blog

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s important to understand that love isn’t being with someone who hurts you repeatedly. It’s important in any relationship to let the other person know how you want to be treated. People treat you the way you let them treat you. You might consider what his behavior is telling you, think in terms of what it means when a person cheats repeatedly.

It’s important to listen to your inner voice. It’s the one telling you how to take care of yourself and what you need to look out for. You’re an important and valuable person and you deserve to be in a relationship with someone who wants to be with you exclusively and treats you wonderfully.

You get to decide what kind of relationship you want and what kind of person you want to be with. Take some time to think about what you need so that you can treat yourself well and move your life in a positive direction. You might even consider staying out of a romantic relationship so you can spend some time discovering how wonderful you are and enjoying your own company.

Remember that you deserve to be with someone who treats you with respect and is committed to you. You’re worth it. Take care.

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s hard to go through a break up and it’s normal to wonder what you want to do. You get to decide what kind of relationship you want and how you want to be treated. It’s always a good idea to look at what’s happened in the past because it’s likely to be what happens in the future. Pay close attention to how he’s behaving now and what it might mean. For example: What does it mean when someone is going out with a person and texting another?

You might want to take some time to think about what you want to do and ask yourself a few questions such as:

• What can I do to make sure I take care of myself and move my life in a positive direction?
• What worked in my relationship and what didn’t? How did each affect me? 
• What limits and boundaries am I setting?
• What am I doing to figure out who I am and live a great life?
• What am I doing to build myself up that doesn’t involve him?
• What do I know about myself and how I deal with loss?

Think about questions like these for a while and you’ll figure out what you want to do. The key is to behave in ways that help you live a positive life. Keep in mind that it’s beneficial to try to have a relationship with someone who is fully available. You deserve to be in a relationship with someone who is committed to you and treats you wonderfully. Take care.

Thank you for sharing your situation. One of the most successful ways to build a serious relationship is to get to know each other well first. Deep relationships are built on knowing someone really well and spending a lot of time together talking in depth and getting to know each other.

There is no formula for a serious relationship, it just takes time to get to know someone and understand if they are truly compatible with you. There’s no rule that says you can’t be committed to each other and be serious about working on the relationship while you build a strong foundation.

There’s no rush, take your time to learn about each other. Perhaps you could agree that you both have long-term seriousness in mind as you get to know each other.

The idea is to spend time together, ask each other questions, do fun things, be in each other’s lives and help each other grow and succeed. Learn as much as you can about each other and build the relationship before making big decisions.

One of the great things about going slowly is that you don’t have to plan anything, you just let it happen and enjoy. It’s always beneficial to take a lot of time up front getting to know someone than regretting moving too fast.

Remember that you deserve to get to know someone really well to determine if they’re a great fit for you. Take care.

Thank you for sharing your situation. It sometimes takes some time to find out what you want in a relationship and what kind of person you want to be with. The idea in any relationship is to be with someone who treats you well, values who you are and encourages you to live a positive life.

Some of the major reasons people have trouble committing are:

• They haven’t found the right person yet.
• They don’t yet know what to look for in a relationship.
• They don’t want to commit yet.
• They don’t want a serious relationship.
• They believe they don’t deserve an exclusive, committed relationship.
• They think there’s always something better out there.
• They don’t know who they themselves are yet.

You get to decide what you do and how you behave in your life and it’s always a good idea to do things that help you treat yourself well and lead in a positive direction. Take some time to think of who you are and what you want, eventually you’ll come to an answer that works for you. Remember that you deserve to be in a positive, fulfilling relationship. Take care.

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s up to you to decide what’s best for you. Perhaps you might ask yourself a few questions to clarify what you want to do:

• What are the positives in the relationship?
• What are the negatives?
• What are the characteristics that are important to me in a significant other?
• What do I need to do to take care of myself?
• What do I really want to do?

The general idea in any long-term relationship is for both people to be fully committed and ready to do anything to make it work. If one person isn’t all there then it affects the quality of the relationship for both.

You both deserve to be in a relationship where the other person is a great match for you based on your needs and what’s important to you. You might find it helpful to talk with your fiance about what you’re thinking and feeling. Do it gently and calmly. The idea is to get these issues out in the open and talk about them. Make sure to listen to her without interrupting or reacting negatively and learn about her.

Have a series of kind conversations where you both talk about what’s really important. As you talk with each other you’ll both gain a deeper understanding of where your relationship stands. Once you both have more information, you can decide what works for each of you.

Remember that you both deserve to be in a relationship where you’re fully committed to the other person and they feel the same way about you. Take care.

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s up to you to decide what you find acceptable in a relationship and what you don’t. Only you know deep inside how you want to be treated and what really makes you feel great.

A general guideline that leads to positive relationships is to be genuinely happy with yourself first before you bring other people into the picture. Remember that you deserve to be in a relationship that isn’t just happy once in a while but most of the time. You might consider having some kind and calm conversations with your significant other so you both can figure out what’s really going on.

You might also find it helpful to think about what creates the on and off cycle between you two. Keep in mind that healthy relationships tend to be consistent; with both people committed to being together and working on the issues that come up. The idea is to find yourself in a positive relationship that helps you feel great the majority of the time. Take care.