Relationship Advice Blog

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s hard to know exactly what he’s doing in the relationship unless you find out directly from him. You might find it helpful to think about what you want to ask him and then talk with him calmly and kindly.

Listen carefully to what he says, without interrupting or reacting negatively, just gather information and see whether what he says matches what he does. The idea is to talk with him at least once so you can find out what’s really going on.

After you talk, it’s up to you to decide what you want to do next. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who is there for you exclusively, treats you well and communicates openly with you. Take care. 

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s OK to not always know what to do in a relationship. You might try contacting him in a friendly way when you feel it’s appropriate and letting him know you’d like to be friends if he’s open to it. Take some time to think about what you would like to tell him and then say it briefly and in a friendly way. Make sure to listen to what he says without interrupting or reacting negatively.

Once you tell him, just let go and give him some time to think. If he decides to reconnect with you that’s great; if not, then you’re still a wonderful person. The idea is to just let him know what you’re thinking and then let him decide what he wants to do.

You might also take some time to think about what worked and what didn’t in the relationship and what you might do differently in the future. Remember that you deserve to celebrate the great person you are and enjoy positive relationships. Take care.

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s important to understand that love isn’t being with someone who hurts you repeatedly. It’s important in any relationship to let the other person know how you want to be treated. People treat you the way you let them treat you. You might consider what his behavior is telling you, think in terms of what it means when a person cheats repeatedly.

It’s important to listen to your inner voice. It’s the one telling you how to take care of yourself and what you need to look out for. You’re an important and valuable person and you deserve to be in a relationship with someone who wants to be with you exclusively and treats you wonderfully.

You get to decide what kind of relationship you want and what kind of person you want to be with. Take some time to think about what you need so that you can treat yourself well and move your life in a positive direction. You might even consider staying out of a romantic relationship so you can spend some time discovering how wonderful you are and enjoying your own company.

Remember that you deserve to be with someone who treats you with respect and is committed to you. You’re worth it. Take care.

Thank you for sharing your situation. One of the most important lessons in any relationship is that you can’t do anything about someone else’s behavior, no matter how much you love them. That means that you can only control your behavior and you get to choose how you move forward. The key is to make sure you treat yourself well and learn from your experiences. You might want to ask yourself a couple of questions so you can reach a point where you feel OK, such as:

• What worked in the situation?
• What didn’t work? 
• What signals were there that I would watch out for in the future?
• What would I do differently in the future?
• What am I going to do to take care of myself?
• What am I going to do to build myself up?
• How am I going to celebrate myself and how great I am?
• What am I doing to plan the rest of my life?

Once you do some careful thinking about questions like these you can move on to ask yourself what kind of relationships you want in the future and what kind of people you want to be with.

Remember to give yourself a chance to heal and discover how amazing you are without a significant other. It’s always a positive idea to do things to love yourself. You’re worth it. Take care.

Thank you for your questions. There are a lot of reasons and motives that lead people to cheat in a relationship including:

• They don’t feel happy with themselves and need external validation.
• They think they’ll find something better.
• They’re not ready to commit.
• They’re not happy with their current relationship.
• The don’t feel loved. 
• They thrive on the thrill of the chase.
• They don’t think they deserve to be loved.
• They’re looking for love.
• They don’t know how to communicate with their partner.
• They’re trying to get back at someone.
• They haven’t learned any other way to behave.

Every person has a different reason for cheating. The important thing is to make sure you’re the healthiest and most balanced person possible so that you attract people who don’t fit this profile.

The healthier and happier you are the more you’ll meet people who feel the same way about themselves and who practice positive behaviors. Remember that you deserve to be with people who are willing to commit to you and value who you are. Take care.

Thank you for reaching out for help. It’s never OK for someone to abuse you, for any reason. Please consider seeking help immediately. You’re a valuable person who deserves to live a happy life free of fear. It’s always helpful to have a plan and you can start the process by asking for help from people and organizations who can advise and assist you on what to do.

Please call your local domestic violence shelter or a resource like the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233, thehotline.org. They will be able to help you find resources so you can end the cycle of abuse in your life. Please take action immediately, these situations get worse the longer you wait. Remember that you’re giving yourself a gift when you ask for help. You’re worth it. Take care.