Relationship Advice Blog

Thank you for sharing your situation. Going through a break up is difficult and some people have a hard time letting go. They may even go as far as waiting for the other person or staying involved just enough so that the other person doesn’t move on.

The idea in a healthy relationship is to be with someone who wants to spend time with you and is committed to being with you exclusively. That means that the person doesn’t stay in casual or occasional contact, they’re there for you and actively being part of your romantic life. Keep in mind that jealousy doesn’t qualify as committing to be with you.

You have a few options you might consider. One is to have some conversations with him where you ask him a lot of questions and listen closely so you can figure out what you want to do next. Another is to let go and find someone who genuinely wants to be with you. A third option is to take a breath, spend some time alone and discover how wonderful you are on your own.

Remember that you deserve to be with someone who is willing to commit to being in your life and treats you the way you want to be treated. Take care.

Thank you for sharing your situation. One of the best things you can do when dealing with a controlling or manipulative relationship is to put as much distance between you and the other person as possible. That means having no contact in any form because you realize that controlling and manipulative behavior can lead to a dangerous situation, including domestic violence.

The key is to treat yourself well and learn from your experience. Take some time to think about what you would do differently in the future so you don’t find yourself in a similar situation. If you’d like, give yourself the gift of seeing a therapist to get some ideas on how to avoid situations like these. It’s also beneficial to let go of the need to follow-up or worry about what he’s doing on Facebook or anywhere else. That’s part of the thinking and behavior that leads to finding yourself in a controlling relationship.

Please consider letting go completely and moving on with your life. Surround yourself with people you trust and keep them informed about what’s going on. Ask for help if you need it and make sure you’re safe. Remember that you deserve to move your life in a positive direction and focus your energy on people who treat you well. You’re worth it. Take care.

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s always a good idea in any relationship to be aware of how someone has behaved in past. This will usually be a reliable indicator of how they will behave with you, unless they work hard and for a long time to change the pattern.

The key in any relationship is to listen to your inner voice. It’s the one telling you if his behavior is positive or negative. Pay close attention to what he’s saying and what it might mean about his behavior and then decide if it’s a good fit for you. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who behaves kindly, treats you and others well and says great things about people in general. You’re worth it. Take care.

Relationship Advice Blog

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s up to you to decide what you need in a relationship and what behavior you find acceptable. Perhaps you might take some time to think about what you would like to ask him or tell him and then talk with him calmly and kindly.

Keep it brief and friendly and make sure to listen to what he says without interrupting or reacting negatively. Have several conversations where you learn more about him. The more you get to know him, the easier it will be for you to decide what to do. You might even consider working together to find a solution that works for both of you.

Remember that you both deserve to be with someone who meets your needs, treats you well and communicates openly. Take care.

Thank you for sharing your situation. You get to decide what kind of relationship you want and with whom you want to be. One skill that’s important to learn in any relationship is to talk openly, kindly and calmly about things. Perhaps you might both try the following exercise together:

• One person talks for up to five minutes about something that is important or meaningful to him or her.
• The other person listens without interrupting or reacting negatively.
• Switch sides.
• Do this two or three times and keep repeating it every few days until you both become comfortable with it.

The idea in any healthy relationship is to communicate with each other and share your thoughts and feelings. It takes practice but, the more the two of you talk, the easier it will be to deal with any challenge that comes your way. It will also help you talk calmly and kindly with him about whatever is on your mind.

Remember that you both deserve to be in a relationship with someone who will work hard to communicate and deal with the issues in the relationship. Take care.

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Thank you for sharing your situation. The key to effective communication in any relationship is to be calm, kind, open and honest. You might find it helpful to take some time to think of one or two things you’d like to talk with him about and then have a few conversations. Consider the following ideas to make it easier:

• Talk when you both have time and can focus on each other without interruptions or being rushed.
• Listen to the other person without interrupting or reacting negatively.
• You don’t have to talk about everything all at once. Keep it simple and brief so that you don’t get overwhelmed.
• Let one person talk for up to five minutes while the other listens. Then switch sides.
• Watch your tone and body language. Be calm, kind, gentle and friendly.
• Keep practicing talking and listening with each other.

Doing these things might feel different at first but, as you practice, you’ll both get better at talking about important subjects. Remember that you both deserve to talk about things and listen to each other. You’re both worth it. Take care.

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s hard to go through a break up in a relationship. One beneficial thing you can do is make sure that you treat yourself well and help yourself heal. Perhaps you might take some time to think about what you love doing in life and what you can do to build yourself up without a significant other. Think about what worked and what didn’t in your relationship as well as what you might do differently in the future.

You can’t do anything about what he’s thinking and feeling but you can make sure that you celebrate how great you are and keep moving your life in a positive direction. Consider talking and hanging out with trusted people and meeting new and interesting individuals. Remember that you deserve to be with someone who appreciates how great you are, treats you well and wants to spend time with you. You’re that important. Take care.