No matter what I do, it feels like I can never meet anyone. The most interaction I have with a male is maybe a text from an old friend a couple times a week. How/where can I meet someone who's worth it? — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. One of the best ways to meet people and start a relationship is to be yourself and do things you love. The more you discover who you are and what your interests are the more likely you’ll be to meet people who appreciate the same things.

The key is to take some time to think about what you really love in life and then do it. As you follow your dreams you’ll meet people who appreciate who you are and want to spend time with someone like you. An additional benefit is that you get to be yourself and attract people who like the real you. You don’t have to act a certain way, just be friendly and talk to people and build friendships that can lead to romance in the future.

Remember that you deserve to do things you love and meet people who appreciate the wonderful person you are. Take care.



Nearly everyday I get coffee at my schools coffee shop. One day last week, the guy who usually take my order wrote a note on the side that said " You have lovely smile". What is the next step I should take with this? Should I say something to him the next time he takes my order or just let it go? — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s up to you to decide what you want to do in any relationship. If you’re interested, you can follow-up in some way; if not, then you don’t have to. The key is to be open and clear with the person so you avoid misunderstandings.

You might find it helpful to take some time to think about what you want to do. It’s always beneficial to be yourself, be friendly and move at your own pace. It’s also OK to just get to know someone as a friend before making any major decisions. Remember that you deserve to proceed in any way that makes you comfortable and helps you take care of yourself. Take care.



what are good things to get a guy for valentines day that arnt too cheesy? — Anonymous

Thank you for your question. You might find it helpful to think in terms of things that you find meaningful and that reflect how you feel about the relationship. It could include:

  • Writing a poem or song.
  • Making a photo album.
  • Spending time together doing anything.
  • Creating a game where you both talk about how much you like each other.
  • Telling the person how much he or she means to you.
  • Any other gift that comes from your heart.

The idea in any relationship is to just show the other person you love them. Gifts are nice but what really counts is how people behave toward each other and the time they spend together. Be yourself and do something that reflects who you are. Take care.



I met a guy at work. We're both in our early 20's but he's older than me. We hang out and talk a lot and have admitted to being attracted to each other, but we're not in a relationship. I was hoping he would ask me out for Valentine's day but he's working a 12 hour shift so that probably won't happen. I was wondering if I should do or get something for him? What would say "Hey I like you and care about you" without being too overly lovey dovey and mushy? Any help here? Please and thank you! — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s always a good idea to just be yourself in a relationship. That means that you can give him any gift that reflects who you are. You might think in terms of something that is meaningful to you. Some people like to make a photo album or write a poem. It’s also meaningful to just spend time talking and enjoying each other’s company.

The idea is to just be you and spend time with him. You might even consider telling him how you feel. Remember that gifts and holidays are nice, but what really matters in a relationship is that the people involved love each other and share their lives. Take care.



My bf is always so positive, happy and he is really outgoing. But i am nothing like that, and it makes me wonder if we will ever fight? Like i know, fighting isnt good, but i dont want a super perfect relationship. I heard its good to have a fight once in a while. Maybe im just new to all of this, is it good that he is positive and happy all the time?? How can i crack him open?? — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s always a good idea to be yourself in a relationship and be with someone who is compatible with you and meets your needs.

There are no rules saying you have to fight. In healthy relationships, the people communicate openly with each other without raising their voices or creating chaos. They work on talking frankly, kindly and calmly and working on solutions that work for both of them.

Many people have been taught that relationships have to have fights in them because that’s what they saw in their own families or learned from friends. It’s up to you whether you want to keep that pattern going. It tends to feel much better to be in a relationship where you treat yourself well and move forward in a positive direction.

Remember that you deserve a relationship that is healthy and balanced and where you work together to be happy. You’re worth it. Take care.



There is this really cute guy at work, but everyone else thinks he's cute too :( We have talked a couple of times and he seems like a nice guy. I'm not the prettiest girl on earth and a lot of the girls at my work are way prettier than me. So I'm thinking that I have no chance with this guy :/ — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. You’re a beautiful person the way you are and you deserve to have happy relationships with people who appreciate you. One positive way to get to know people and build a relationship is to talk with them in a friendly way.

You don’t have to be perfect or act a certain way; just be yourself, ask questions, listen to him and tell him about yourself. Keep talking with him and learning about him in a casual, informal way and eventually you’ll know if he’s a good fit for you. The key in any healthy relationship is to find someone who really appreciates the real you and wants to spend time with you. You’re worth it. Take care.



Ive been going out with a guy for 1.5 weeks now but I’ve known him for 2 years. My friend decided we should go on a double date (theyve been going out 7 months). The double date didnt go as planned. Never been in a real relationship before and so I felt very uncomfortable to hold his hand, and so I didnt at all when I was around my friend. I saw him the previous day and it was wonderful, but we were really tired on this day. I feel like I just screwed up… and im scared he thinks im boring now — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. The key to having a great relationship is to be yourself. That means that you get to relax and just be the person you are. You don’t have to act a certain way or be perfect, just be you.

The more genuine you are the better relationship you’ll have because, if the other person likes you, then you’ll know they like the real you. You might look at dating as hanging out with a friend. You spend time with the person, talk about things, ask each other questions and get to know each other in a friendly way. It’s a good idea to go out in a group because it relieves some of the pressure. It’s also important to keep in mind that it takes time to get comfortable with anyone and it’s OK to move at your own pace.

Remember that you’re a wonderful person and you deserve to be with people who appreciate who you are. Take care.