I broke up with my boyfriend of 3 years last week. I definately made the right decision, I had to do what was best for me because I felt like he didn't care anymore. The only thing is, I don't feel that sad, and I can see he's so depressed about it. I feel guilty that I don't actually feel sad about it. I get little pangs every now and again but nothing huge. Is there something wrong with me? :/ — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. You get to feel whatever you feel in any relationship or after a break up. It’s normal to feel guilty or sad when someone is hurt. Any feelings of hurt, sadness or guilt usually lessen over time for both people. Also keep in mind that it’s fine for you to be kind to him or talk with him if you want, as long as it’s clear that you’re there as a friend.

It’s OK to take care of yourself and find a positive relationship that works for you. In the end, it’s also better for the other person because they can find someone who is compatible with them. Remember that you deserve to have confidence in your decisions and date people who are a good fit for you. Take care.

im in love with my bestfriend first love.. i love being with the kid , im finally happy.. should i still be with the kid ? or leave the kid for my bestfriend?.. — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. It will be important for you to decide what you want to do based on what you feel is right for you. Take some time to think about how you want to be treated, who is a positive person to be with, who you’re most interested in and who will treat you the best. Then you can decide for yourself.

Remember to communicate well with the people involved and be kind to them no matter what you decide. Also make sure to make a decision that helps you treat yourself well. Take care.

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