Relationship Advice Blog

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s up to you how you behave in any relationship. Perhaps you might take some time to think about the reasons you think and act the way you and ask yourself some questions such as:

• What kind of person do I want to be with?
• What do I do when someone isn’t the way I want them to be?
• What do I need in a relationship?
• What’s worked so far, what hasn’t and what would I do differently?
• What issues do I need to address within myself that will help me feel great and treat myself and my significant other well?
• What am I doing to make sure I’m as healthy and balanced as possible before bringing someone else into my life?

Feelings such as worry, insecurity, dissatisfaction or need for attachment come from inside the person experiencing them. If you’re feeling things like these you might want to give yourself the gift of talking with a therapist to learn new skills to deal with things and discover how great you are. The happier you are with yourself, the more likely you’ll be able to enjoy your relationships.

Remember that it’s important for each person in the relationship to be healthy and able to appreciate and support the other person. Take care.

Relationship Advice Blog

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s always a good idea to be yourself in a relationship and be with someone who is compatible with you and meets your needs.

There are no rules saying you have to fight. In healthy relationships, the people communicate openly with each other without raising their voices or creating chaos. They work on talking frankly, kindly and calmly and working on solutions that work for both of them.

Many people have been taught that relationships have to have fights in them because that’s what they saw in their own families or learned from friends. It’s up to you whether you want to keep that pattern going. It tends to feel much better to be in a relationship where you treat yourself well and move forward in a positive direction.

Remember that you deserve a relationship that is healthy and balanced and where you work together to be happy. You’re worth it. Take care.

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s hard to go through a break up, especially if it’s unclear what’s going on. You get to decide what kind of relationship you want and how you want to be treated. You might ask yourself a few questions to clarify what you want to do, such as:

• What kind of relationship do I want?
• How do I know I’m in a relationship?
• How do I want the other person to behave?
• How do I want to be treated?
• What do I deserve in a relationship?
• What’s worked so far, what hasn’t and what might I do differently in the future?
• What am I doing to make sure I’m the healthiest and most balanced me possible without a significant other?

Ask yourself some questions like these and you’ll eventually figure out what’s best for you. You might also consider trying to talk with him. Ask him questions and listen to his answers without reacting, just listen to what he says. Also pay attention to his behavior, it’s sending you messages as well.

Remember that you deserve to be in a relationship with someone who is willing to be with you exclusively, communicate openly and treat you wonderfully. You’re worth it. Take care.

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s always a good idea for both people in a relationship to feel good about themselves first so that they can be there for each other. You can’t change how he feels about himself, he will need to work on that on his own, preferably with a therapist. He might consider finding a therapist he’s comfortable with and talking about his issues so he can heal and discover how great he is.

It’s up to you what you want to do and how you celebrate the wonderful things about you. You decide what kind of relationship you want to be in and with what type of person. Keep in mind that it’s beneficial to be in a relationship that helps you feel great and move your life in a positive direction. It’s hard to have a relationship where you take care of someone else because it leaves little or no time for you to take care of yourself.

You might want to take some time to think about what you need and what you want to say to your boyfriend. Then you can have some kind and calm conversations where you tell him what you need and listen to him. The idea is to learn about each other and figure out what your next step is. You might both think in terms of getting as healthy and balanced as possible on your own before continuing to build a relationship.

Remember that you both deserve to feel great about yourselves and be in a relationship that makes you happy. Take care.

Thank you for sharing your situation. One of the keys to a great relationship is to love yourself first. When you love who you are you’ll be so comfortable with yourself that you won’t be insecure about things.

You might take some time to think about what is causing your over thinking and insecurity. Ask yourself questions such as:

• What is causing my over thinking and insecurity?
• What events in my life led to the way I think now?
• What is really happening in my relationship?
• What might not actually be happening?
• What is likely to happen in my relationship if I continue thinking like this?
• What is unlikely to happen?
• What am I doing to help myself be the happiest and most balanced person possible?
• What am I doing to make sure I’m happy on my own outside of a romantic relationship?
• Which of my behaviors make me happy and which don’t?
• Which behaviors would I change to feel happier?
• What am I willing to do to work on my over thinking and insecurity?

The idea is to think carefully about the reasons behind the over thinking and do other things that lead you in a positive direction. You might consider giving yourself the gift of talking with a therapist so you can learn how to deal with these thoughts and feelings and celebrate how great you are. It’s a way of treating yourself well.

You get to decide how you behave in any relationship and how you take care of yourself. Remember that you deserve to feel secure about yourself and others and enjoy positive relationships. Take care.

Thank you for sharing your situation. The goal in any relationship is for both people to be healthy and balanced so they can grow together. That means that each person is stable and happy on their own and bring those positive behaviors into the relationship.

It’s up to you what kind of relationship you want. Perhaps you might ask yourself a couple of questions to figure out what’s right for you, such as:

• What is positive about the situation?
• What is negative about the situation?
• What kind of relationship do I want?
• What kind of person do I want to be with?
• What am I doing to take care of myself?
• What am I doing to move my life in a positive direction?
• What am I doing to be the healthiest, happiest me before getting into a relationship?
• What do I want to do deep inside that will help me move in a positive direction?

One of the big lessons in life is that it’s OK to spend time alone and figure out who you are before bringing someone else into the picture. You get to decide what you do in your life and when you do it as long as you’re moving in a positive direction.

Take some time to think about what’s best for you. Then you might consider talking calmly and kindly with your significant other if you’d like. Let him know how you feel and listen to him. Keep having friendly conversations until you both are on the same page. Be honest, open and caring. See a therapist if you need to, individually or together.

As you keep learning about yourself and him, you’ll eventually find an answer that works for you. Remember that you deserve to take care of yourself first and then find someone who meets your needs. Take care.

Thank you for sharing your situation. One of the most important lessons for building a healthy relationship is to find someone who deeply values who you are and treats you well.

You’re wonderful the way you are so the key is to find people who will appreciate your amazing qualities. One positive way to do this is to make sure you’re the healthiest and most balanced you possible. Do things you love, celebrate who you are and meet people who like the things you like. When you live a happy, active life you’ll attract people who like you for you.

You might want to take some time to consider how you want to be treated in a relationship and how you want your significant other to behave. Once you do some thinking you’ll be able to decide what’s right for you. The idea is to be with someone who likes the real you and treats you with respect. You’re worth it. Take care.