What does it mean if your new bf mentions his ex once in a conversation which is completely irrelevant to the topic? Taking note that he had a bad break up one year ago. Also the fact that he later tells you he shouldn't have brought her up? Should i be worried? I know i am just being over concerned, but if he is still thinking about his ex... — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. You get to feel whatever you want to feel in a relationship. You also decide what behavior is appropriate for you and how you want to be treated. You might try talking kindly and calmly to him when you’re not in the middle of a situation and tell him how you feel. Let him know in a brief, friendly and gentle way what’s on your mind and what you’d like to see happen. Then just listen to him without interrupting or reacting negatively.

Talk with him a few times, listen to what he says and watch his behavior. After a while you’ll be able to tell if it’s working for you. You can’t change his behavior but you can let him know what you need and see whether he’s willing to work with you. Remember that you both deserve to be with someone who is committed to you and values your wishes. Take care.