Hey, me and my boyfriend have been going out for 6 months and i love him to bits but i only get to see him once a week on a friday when he sleep round but during the week we literally have no contact which kills me. when he does come round he's lovely for the most part but we do bicker a little bit and that hurts me alot and the next day he just wants to go out and see people he sees in the week. i just want to spend time with him. How do i talk to him to sort it out? i cry every time i try. — Anonymous

Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s always a good idea to tell people in a relationship what you need and how you feel. You might take some time to think about the main things you want to tell him and then talk with him. Keep things brief and friendly and make sure you listen to what he says as well. If you feel like crying, then postpone the conversation until you find a time where you’re both calm and ready to talk. You don’t have to have long or complicated conversations, just say what you need to say and then watch what he does. As you keep talking with him you’ll eventually know what you want to do.

The idea in any healthy relationship is to be with someone who really cares about your thoughts and feelings and wants to spend time with you. You get to decide what you want in a relationship and what kind of person you want to be with.

You might find it helpful to keep thinking about what you want and keep watching his behavior. The way he acts right now is likely to be how he behaves in the future unless he does a lot of work to change it. That means that you get to decide whether he treats you the way you want to be treated and what you do next.

Remember that you deserve to be with someone who wants to spend time with you and treats you wonderfully. Take care.