Relationship Advice Blog

Thank you for your question. There’s no absolute rules as to what is the ideal age for the people in a relationship, unless one is underage. There are a few things you might want to be aware of that can happen with people who are different ages:

• People of different ages can have different perspectives because they’ve lived a different amount of time. Think about how you were nine years ago and you understand how age changes people’s perspective.
• Sometimes the older person knows things the younger doesn’t and can manipulate or take advantage of the younger person.
• The two people can have different tastes in music, fashion, books and other cultural things.
• The two people can have different educational levels.
• The two people can have a different view of the world because they grew up at different times.
• The older person knows what it’s like to be 18 but the younger person can’t know what it’s like to be older, simply because they’re not there yet.
• Sometimes the older person tries to control the younger person or treat them like a child.

The idea in any relationship is to be involved with people who will treat you wonderfully, value who you are and help you live your life in a positive way. If you don’t see any of the signs mentioned above then it’s up to you what you want to do. The important thing is that you be completely comfortable with the person and make decisions that help you take care of yourself and move in a positive direction.

If you’re wondering what to do then it might be a sign you need some more time to get to know this person. It’s always a good idea to know someone really well before making an important decision like dating them. The thing to always keep in mind is that you deserve to be with someone who really values who you are and treats you kindly. Take care.