Anonymous asked: hey, im 24 and ive being my bf for 2 years now. And we've been on a break about a month ago, before our break Which was three months b4 our break, he started to be less flirty n romantic, i guess its cos our communcation is quite low and i attend to call him alot and Ask him to call me back but, he doesnt. But, when we catch and go out we are strong in love. My question is what and how can i get back to the old bf that he use to be? plz help. xoxo
Thank you for sharing your situation. You can’t change someone’s behavior but you can do things that help you both move in a positive direction such as:
- Keep talking with each other.
- Keep listening to each other.
- Share your lives with each other.
- Keep getting to know each other.
- Keep supporting each other.
- Keep treating each other kindly.
It’s up to the two of you to keep building the relationship together so you’re both happy. It’s not just one person’s responsibility to keep the relationship going. You might find it helpful to work together to build two-way communication so you both are on the same page.
Keep in mind that the way he’s behaving now is likely to be how he behaves in the future so it’s up to you to decide what you want in a relationship and how you want to be treated. Perhaps you could take some time to think about what’s working in the relationship and what’s not and make adjustments to make sure you take care of yourself and are moving in a positive direction.
Remember that you deserve to be with someone who wants to be actively involved in the relationship. Take care.
Anonymous asked: I feel like even though my boyfriend and I (both in college) have been together for 11 months, I still don't know if he is the one for me. It almost seems as if one week we are happy, and the next he disappoints me. He shows up late to pick me up for dates, has slept through plans on a couple less recent occasions, and lots of time we just hang out at my apartment bcuz he has no money (and doesn't help look for cheap things to do). Is it just me being too emotional or do my doubts have merit?
Thank you for sharing your situation. Your thoughts and feelings always have merit because they’re yours. You get to decide what you want in a relationship and how you want to be treated. Perhaps you’d find it helpful to think about what’s important to you in a relationship and talk calmly and kindly with your boyfriend.
Have some friendly and caring conversations, tell him what you’re thinking and feeling and listen to him as well. The goal is for both of you to understand each other and be on the same page. Remember that you deserve to be in a relationship with someone who is a good fit for you and treats you wonderfully. Take care.
Anonymous asked: hey , i just recently got a new boyfriend. It started off perfectly but lately he seems distant such as via texts , where we used to talk to eachother all day , now if i start a convosation it just ended straight away. He acts hard and isnt my normal type but i really like him but am i doing something wrong or is this normal for a guy?
Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s a good idea to pay close attention to how your significant other behaves. If things are going well and his behavior suddenly changes it usually means something is going on. That doesn’t mean it has to be something negative, just that something is happening.
You might find it helpful to talk calmly and kindly with him to find out what’s going on. Tell him how you feel and let him do the same. Listen to each other without interrupting or reacting negatively, just listen. Learn about each other. The idea is to gather information so you won’t have to guess what’s occurring.
Once you talk with each other a few times you’ll know more about what’s going on and you’ll be able to make a decision about what you want to do. Keep in mind that other people’s actions aren’t your fault, they choose how they behave.
Remember that you deserve to be with someone who communicates openly, treats you well and wants to spend time with you. Take care.
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Anonymous asked: I've been dating a guy since mid September, and he still hasn't made me his official gf. I'm ok with this because he lives 5 hours away and and also because I had just ended a 5 year relationship in February. I've been taking things slow because I don't want to end up getting hurt like I did last time, but just recently I've found myself falling in love with him. Should I tell him even though we're not official yet? I mean, I don't want to scare him off or rush him into something serious. Help!!
Thank you for sharing your situation. You get to decide what you need in a relationship and what you do. Perhaps you might think in terms of continuing to get to know him as a friend so that you reach a point where you’re comfortable telling him anything. Have plenty of friendly conversations where you learn about each other and listen to one another. The more you talk with each other the less you’ll have to guess what’s going on.
It’s always a good idea to get to know someone slowly because you’ll be able to tell if he’s a good fit for you before making any major decisions. Remember that you deserve to take your time because it gives you a chance to take care of yourself, get to know him well and figure out where the relationship is headed. You’re worth it. Take care.
Anonymous asked: I have a boyfriend, he lives a few hours away from me. He's older than me by 2 and a half years. I like someone else, and I cry when we fight. Me and my current boyfriend are having some problems. I don't know if I should follow my heart or do what's right. Any advice?
Thank you for sharing your situation. It’s up to you what you do in any relationship and whom you want to be with. Perhaps you might ask yourself a few questions to clarify what you want to do, such as:
- What kind of relationship do I want?
- What kind of person do I want to be with?
- What do I really want to do?
- What am I doing to make sure I take care of myself and move my life in a positive direction?
- What have I done so far that’s worked; what hasn’t worked and what would I do differently?
Think about questions like these and you’ll eventually decide what’s best for you. The key in any healthy relationship is to be with someone who treats you well, wants to be with you and who is willing to work on things with you. Take care.
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Hey, met this guy through facebook. And, I live in the middle east and he lives in London. Ive mentioned that im going there to do my masters.And told him not to give up on me, just yet, i hve a yr and a half left. Before this even happend we’ve on the phone like once and twice, 2 yrs ago. And we’ve come again this valentines day and we’re talking only this time we’re getting to know each other. Can you guide me of questions to ask him? So, i get bored easily and et to know him more. Cos’ i wnt this to work. thank you!
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Thank you for sharing your situation. One positive way to help a relationship grow is to communicate by asking open-ended questions. These are questions that encourage the other person to answer with something other than a yes or no. You might try some questions such as:
- What are you thinking about our relationship?
- What do you love doing?
- What’s your passion in life?
- What are your career plans?
- What hobbies do you enjoy?
The idea is to ask him any question that you have a curiosity about and then listen to him without interrupting or directing the conversation, just listen. The more you listen to him the more you’ll learn about him. It will also help you build a relationship because you’ll get to know each other better. It’s also OK to share your thoughts and feelings with him.
In a healthy relationship, the people involved talk openly about things and enjoy learning about each other. Remember that you deserve a relationship with someone who wants to be with you and share his life with you. Take care.
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